Preferred Perception

to create reality is life's purpose – lessons from Nowheim

It Is What It Is

Or is it? I guess IT is different for everybody. It is what one perceives, and it is what one creates. What’s the difference between perception and creation? Focus.

I think it is a good attitude to accept what is – what I perceive – rather than putting all energy into denying or fighting or bemoaning it. Despite the well-meant suggestion to be strong and fight what is, I cannot change things to the better that way. The more I focus on an unwanted situation or thing, the more of it I attract. The annoying neighbor gets more annoying. At least, it seems that way because I look for and discover ever more traits of his I don’t like, hear and see more unpleasant things he does. Fear can get out of control and turn into hysteria. Sadness can turn into depression and feeling powerless. Constantly talking and thinking about an ailment usually makes it worse.

To be clear, I am not advocating to ignore what is but to accept and move on. By accept, I mean evaluate the situation, the thing and decide whether I like it or not. That’s all the attention it deserves. What do I want instead? That’s where my attention should turn to. Focus on the solution, not the problem. It may help to look at why and how things happened the way they did and work on improvements. But the same advice applies here. I recognize the cause, decide what I want to do differently and focus on that. There is no point in regret. What is done is done. Obviously, remorse is another story. It may keep me honest and on track with my plan to improve (including sincere apologies if I have hurt somebody). Again, remorse should be a turning point, not a status quo.

The it-is-what-it-is attitude I am describing is not the same as being fatalistic. Unless I am content with what is and want to keep it that way i.e. attract more of the same, I need to change my vision. I have to be careful not to taint my vision by doubting that it will come true or by frequently checking if anything has changed yet. I have to be confident and enjoy my vision as if it has already come true. That way, I feel better already, and I open the door to opportunities and solutions I would otherwise probably not even know existed.

I was taught to be realistic, and I think I misunderstood. There is nothing more realistic than recognizing what is, accepting it and deciding how I want things to be different whereas the emphasis is on the last step. It would be unrealistic to believe that any reality is written in stone and cannot change. Daydreamers – consistent daydreamers, that is – are the progressive realists. They create their future reality. As Albert Einstein said: “imagination is the preview of what is to come.”

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